I’m quoting Richard Rohr here – saying we’re all addicts. Not addicted in the dramatic way. Addicted in the everyday way: the way we reach for something the second we don’t want to feel what we feel. The notion that we’re all addicts is obviously off-putting and unfriendly to our […]
Getting Real (And Why It’s Harder Than It Looks) I’m 55 years old and I love it. Midlife has stripped away most of the pretending. I know what matters to me now, and what doesn’t. That’s how I became the cool girl I always wanted to be. It’s not a
On vulnerability, control, and the strange grace of losing your footing I came to Mexico for music. For joy. For the improbable pleasure of hearing Noah Kahan sing into a warm night with the Caribbean behind him. I did not come to discover, in a very public wristband line, that
There’s a saying people like to repeat with a tone of quiet authority: how you do anything is how you do everything. It’s usually delivered as wisdom. Occasionally as a warning. Say it with enough confidence and it sounds like a law of human nature, simple, explanatory, tidy. It reassures
Remember Nancy Reagan and her ridiculous anti-drug campaign? Yeah, that didn’t work. Of course it didn’t. That’s because “no” isn’t for us to tell others what to do. It’s about what we choose to do or not do. There was a time when I couldn’t just say no Declining an
I grew up on the coast of Maine, in Cape Elizabeth, where the Atlantic does its quiet, relentless work shaping stone, weathering certainty, teaching patience without ever naming the lesson. That sense of time and tide never really left me. Katherine Flores: New Yorker Graduate school brought me to New